Font Chooser Confusion???

I'm pulling my hair out trying to get the standard OS X font selection dialog (the one that comes up in most apps when you do Command-T). There seems to be a disconnect between the fonts in Font Book and the fonts in the font chooser dialog.

Specifically, if I install a set of fonts from the same typeface, I see these all called out (correctly) in Font Book. For example I might see "Futura BT" with a Medium and Medium Italic font, and "Futura Cn BT" with similar.

But when I then look in the font chooser, OS X seems to have tried to collapse the font into a single type face with lots of different weights/styles. This is fine except it more or less randomly eliminates some styles. For example if I install a bold version of Zurich and Zurich Condensed these both get wrapped into a "Bold" option under "Zurich", effectively hiding one font so I cannot select it. When I look in Font Book, it is all there and makes perfect sense, but the Font Chooser dialog appears to be trying to be too smart.

Does anyone know of a work-around for this? It's consumed most of my day trying to figure out how to make this work and i'm getting a bit frustrated.

TIA,
Tim