There are a variety of reasons why RAM may fail a machine after an upgrade. Much of which is very difficult for Apple to do anything about, because RAM itself is inherently very complicated. Software based testing will not always reveal bad circuits even if some exist. Specs that look identical on the surface may still not indicate complete compatibility. Bus slewing on notebook machines is a feature which not all RAM modules support the same way. A good RAM vendor will offer a no questions asked lifetime warranty on their RAM, and very specifically indicate the vintage and Mac model their RAM is known to be compatible with. Apple's spec pages are very specific as to RAM compatibility, and the System Profiler in Apple menu -> About This Mac -> More Info will reveal more RAM info about preinstalled Apple RAM which may be important in the specs. RAM may be improperly seated if you install it yourself and cause problems. Suffice it to say, this thread being so long, we have lost any definition of whose problem is being solved by whom, the original poster has not posted on the board since October last year.
If you still can't figure out why your RAM is causing issues, or if it is indeed the RAM causing issues, please start a new topic thread here:
http://discussions.apple.com/forum.jspa?forumID=1290&start=0
You'll get wider attention, and get a better chance at a directed answer to your problem.
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