Reading all the messages on this thread indicates to me that the problem may not just be Apple centred.
My problems are identical - i.e. loss of internet connection on return from sleep. In my case I can initiate a LAN connection repair, which fails, but allows me to reset my LAN adapter, which always works. I have had my computer for years and the problems started when I changed my basic Avast antivirus software to their new Internet Pro edition. This produced random failures on waking from sleep. I removed that and went to a McAfee internet and antivirus program and it worked without problems for many weeks. Now the LAN access fails consistently on wake from sleep. Although my LAN adaptor retains the ip address of the router, it does not see it until reset. A reboot always resets it ok.
I am considering clearing out my antivirus again to see if that clears the problem again. I get the impression that some kind of software update or even dare I say it a virus itself may be to blame. I recently changed my keep alive battery just incase it was losing a bit of power although all the main settings were ok in the bios, it didn't help. By the way I am running a 64bit Window Vista set up connected to a BT hub. My other pcs using 32bit XP work fine. I wonder why I should have the same problem as yourselves.