apple car play and other

I have followed all the directions and still cannot set it up. When I go the iPhone Car Play, The words are in gray and a little icon just speeds around looking for a list of cars.

I am missing something here as the iPhone is supposed to be compatible with the car.

All is well.

I also had been thinking that it was the port. Using a flash light, I found the third and correct port. It took all of 10 sec. to connect.

New car fun.

Thanks for your help.