Look at me, my good friend. My Apple phone had a problem that I had to reset or format, and then I want to activate the lock, and I do not have it and I really do not know what to do, because Apple does not have the iD and password that the phone req

Did you buy the device second-hand (used)? If a used iOS device has been 'Activation locked' then only the previous owner can unlock it, either by providing you with the account ID and password, or by removing it from his list of devices (as he should have done before selling it).

If you are unable to contact him to do this then I'm afraid you will not be able to use the device - there is no other way of unlocking it at all. Apple cannot unlock it for you, nor find the previous owner for you, and neither can the websites that offer to unlock it for a fee: these are scams.

You should if possible return it to wherever you bought it and ask for a refund as in this event the device is completely useless.

If on the other hand you bought it new, and the ID it's asking for is yours but you've forgotten it, go to https://iforgot.apple.com to retrieve the ID and reset the password. See also If you forgot your Apple ID - Apple Support

Failing that, take the device, the original purchase documents, and some ID to an actual Apple Store (make an appointment) and ask if they can unlock it. If you cannot get to an Apple Store it has been suggested you could contact Support, though I'm not at all sure they can do it without actual access to the phone. https://getsupport.apple.com

You can also try  filling out and submitting this form.          The form is for iTunes, but it will get passed to the ID Support section.