Iphone Disabled

If your computer doesn't recognize your iPhone, iPad, or iPod - Apple Support

Did you forget the device?

You may have to properly power down both devices and reboot fresh and try to pair again.

Also older phones like the iPhone 6 will pair slower than the new iPhone 11 which is so easy.

You’re describing an endless loop.

Your iPhone is disabled. Lawrence Finch provided the link to address that. You respond with a “yes, but...” answer you cannot connect to your computer. I respond with a link addressing that. Then you respond to that with a “yes, but...” answer saying your iPhone is disabled. And round and round we go.

The links both of us provided suggest contacting Apple Support if all else fails.

aarons2020 wrote:

yes but when i connect to my computer the mac doesnt talk to phone.

nothing happens

You apparently don’t understand how to use a web browser. When you see blue text that is called a link. You click anywhere on the blue text and a new page will open with additional helpful information. In this case how to get your computer to restore the phone.

Follow the instructions in this Apple support link—>If you forgot the passcode for your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch, or your device is disabled - Apple Support