XDR Monitor calibration (using Xrite i1)

Can not seem to calibrate the XDR Monitor (using Xrite i1) to get pro prints to match. I made custom monitor profiles and tried reference modes then icc profiles for canvas and paper but does not seem to work. Suggestions?

I have been using a Mac Pro 2009 and the 30" Cinema but can only go to El Capitan now. Now have the Mac Pro 2019 and 32" XDR and hit a dead end. Any help is much appreciated. Thanks!