Merge function not working
I just wanted to add an update on this thread topic.
In the UK the mobile broadband carrier EE does not enable the call merge function for safety reasons. Instead they offer a free number for you to call and set up conference calls outside of the iphone app.
No idea why they consider the merge a security risk, but don't waste your time re-setting your network if you're on EE in the UK.
more info here: https://ee.co.uk/help/help-new/general/plans-and-features/group-call
iPhone 7, iOS 13