Am I being monitored by my parents?

Are you sharing an Apple. ID with her? If yes, she can monitor you but you can also monitor her. Has she jailbroken your iPhone? Do a search for the word Cydia on your iPhone. Are you on family sharing? Look up Apple's article on parental control and you can see what she can do.

I suggest you ask your mother. When you are both calm, bring up the subject, Don't get defensive or angry. Ask her what she needs in order to feel comfortable with you having a smart phone. Listen, really listen, to what she says. Talk to her about how and why privacy is important to you.

My guess is that your mother worries about you and what might happen to you rather than worries you'll do something bad (as an only daughter, I know what that's like). If your mother starts to see you as mature, as having learned the things she has taught you about being careful in the world, she may even light up.

Whatever ends up happening, both of you will probably learn something.

Best of luck.

deggie wrote:

There are actually known ways to do this, they involve 3rd party servers.

So with her knowledge as I said. She would see the app that allows this installed. Even the apps that allow access to stored data require the phone owners Apple credentials.

I should have said "not steathily"

Just answer my question please :)

How do you expect anyone here to know this? We can't know.

There are no known ways to monitor your device without your knowledge.

If you feel this may be an invasion of your privacy, that's a conversation you have with your mother.

You are a monitored kid.

You'll outgrow it over time.

Your device can be monitored by adult authorities until you become emancipated.

There are actually known ways to do this, they involve 3rd party servers.