Recovering the passcode isn’t possible if it’s unknown or forgotten, but with the AppleID and associated password it should be possible for a close relative (who possesses the appropriate knowledge) to reset and reuse the iPad.
The reset will erase any locally stored data on the iPad, but if it’s synchronised to iCloud, the data can be restored to the iPad.
The following is written from the perspective of the original owner, but you’ll get the idea...
If you iPad is disabled, or you have forgotten your iPad passcode, you’ll need to follow this process:
https://support.apple.com/en-gb/HT211078
You’ll need access to either a PC (with iTunes installed) or a Mac (with iTunes or Finder - as appropriate for the installed version of MacOS).
You’ll also need your AppleID and associated password. If these have also been forgotten, they can be recovered here:
https://iforgot.apple.com
To recover your credentials, you’ll need access to one of the following:
- Your primary email address mailbox that corresponds with your AppleID
- Any of the secondary/recovery email addresses that should be configured for your AppleID account
- Any of the trusted telephone numbers (fixed line or Cellular/Mobile) that are associated with your AppleID
Unless you AppleID account has not been fully/correctly configured, or has been seriously neglected, recovery of the AppleID and password should not be difficult.
More information about recovery of your AppleID:
https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT201354
More information about recovery of your AppleID password:
https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT201487
When you recover access to your credentials, you would be well advised to log-in to your AppleID account from a web browser - and verify/update any email addresses and trusted telephone numbers:
https://appleid.apple.com
