How can I separate my phone from my wife's?

See How to create a new Apple ID https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT204316and

How to switch Apple IDs on your iPhone or iPad

https://www.imore.com/how-change-apple-id-your-iphone-or-ipad

See the data implications below.

Some of these things may apply even though not changing an Apple ID: What to do after you change your Apple ID or password https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT204071

 Keep in mind that some things available under a first Apple ID will not be available under a new Apple ID. For example, you won’t be able to transfer anything purchased from the App and iTunes Stores to the new ID. And, there are other issues to be addressed.

And see what Eric Root says on this matter here  https://discussions.apple.com/thread/251483565and

what Winston Churchill says about it here: https://discussions.apple.com/thread/7452747

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You also can set up family sharing between the IDs to share purchases made with them. See:

Family Sharing  https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT201060

Set up Family Sharing https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT201088

Very simple. Do not use the same Apple ID on both of your iPhones. Once each one of your iPhones have separate Apple IDs then the common calls and texts will go away.

Axel F.

Make sure you are using different Apple IDs