So you want to copy the metadata date inside the movie to the file creation & modification date, right? Photos.app uses the file creation date as a last resort if there are no other date tags but apparently you want the also the Finder list show the correct date.
You can do this with GraphicConverter or via exiftool via the command line:
GraphicConverter browser > EXIF menu > Set Creation and Modification Date depending on Exif
Movie dates are not standardized and can can be in a many places. Keys and QuickTime tags are the most common movie metadata date tags. Currently iOS 9 and newer devices seem to use Keys tag for dates so use this exiftool command (the command asks for Xcode Command Line Tools install which can be ignored but then the FileCreateDate moves only backwards in time (the install is quite small and fast, not the huge Xcode install)):
exiftool -m -P -overwrite_original_in_place -wm w -api QuickTimeUTC=1 '-FileCreateDate<Keys:CreationDate' '-FileModifyDate<Keys:CreationDate' movies.*
For other movies lacking Keys tag, this should work:
exiftool -m -P -overwrite_original_in_place -wm w -api QuickTimeUTC=1 '-FileCreateDate<QuickTime:CreateDate' '-FileModifyDate<QuickTime:CreateDate' movies.*
For more info check:
https://discussions.apple.com/docs/DOC-250002750