Hello Recoverymode-emergencymode,
Thank you for using Apple Support Communities!
It sounds as though you’re looking into information regarding placing your device in recovery mode without activating Emergency SOS. We’d be glad to assist in seeking a solution.
Below is a resource that can help:
Use Emergency SOS on your iPhone
This resource provides great information and useful steps when looking to use Emergency SOS on your iPhone. When using Emergency SOS on a iPhone XR, this would involve pressing and holding the side button and one of the Volume buttons until the Emergency SOS slider appears. These steps differ from placing your iPhone XR into recovery mode as that button sequence would end with holding the side button alone.
If you are having trouble with updating or restoring your iPhone, this resource below can provide useful steps to put your iPhone in recovery mode:
If you can't update or restore your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch
We hope this helps.
Cheers!