I’m trying to set up control on my daughters phone and I cannot figure it out. I was able to add her to the family sharing, but when I go into the screen time, I do not have the options to choose from

Hi, you can check these resources: Set up Family Sharing

Use Screen Time on your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch

Use parental controls on your child's iPhone, iPad, and iPod touch

From the second resource, scroll down to the bottom which shows "Use Screen Time with your family":

If you're already in a family group, go to Settings > Screen Time, and tap your child's name. If you need to create an Apple ID for your child, go to Settings > [your name] > Family Sharing > Screen Time.

Or if you're new to Family Sharing, tap Set up Screen Time for Family and follow the instructions to add a child and set up your family. You can add family members any time from Family Sharing settings.

Hope that helps!

I think this link will help you --> Use parental controls on your child's iPhone, iPad, and iPod touch - Apple Support

I wish I could help you more, but I don't have kids, so don't need to use Parental Controls. Use the Contact Support at the top of this page and seek guidance from Apple directly.