I welcome you to show me one time I or anyone else responding here ever told any other poster to "shut up."
Once again I will state, if you believe an issue is one you cannot live with, what better advice could one give than "get a refund and purchase something else?"
Complaining about the issue here literally accomplishes nothing, as the only ones who could change the design are the engineers at Apple, and they for the most part aren't reading comments here.
However they do get told what to look into and what to change based on feedback sent to the feedback link above.
I see no "constructive feedback" in telling Apple to use coatings, which they are well aware of but diminish low light sensitivity, which they are not willing to give up; from the iPhone 12 mini-site on Apple's web page:
For me, it wouldn't be worth the brain damage to live with something I found unacceptable; for all the claims of "fan boy" I returned my AirPods Pro for a refund for just such a reason (no matter which tips I used, they would loosen and fall out after a few minutes.)
I wish you the best whatever you decide.