I update my storage subscription and the charge went to my daughter via apple pay what should i do?

It sounds like you two may be using "Family Sharing". And if she is the owner, the charges will go to her payment on file.

You will need to either separate the family sharing, or adjust payment options within your daughter's phone iCloud settings.

If you aren't using Family Sharing, have you checked your payment method?

Apple ID payment information - change.