Hello tengamkcihc,
It sounds as though your wanting to change the priority of emails that you're sending as it's defaulting to High Priority. To further isolate potential causes, we'd like to have you deselect the Priority field following the steps here:
Write and send emails in Mail on Mac - Apple Support
"To use other fields, such as Bcc or Priority, click the Header button
, then click a field."
Compose a new email with this field off, send it to yourself, and test if it's still received as High Priority. Let us know what you find.
Have a great day!