i can no longer find my passcode for my ipad

First do the following: If you forgot the passcode on your iPad, or your iPad is disabled - Apple Support

Then when you have access to the iPad, use these instructions: What to do before you sell, give away, or trade in your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch - Apple Support

If it is the lock screen passcode for the iPad that is forgotten, see my previous reply.

If it is the Apple ID password, the following may have another method that will help: If you forgot your Apple ID password - Apple Support

I am trying to reset my password I have my Apple ID but when I go to reset my password is asking me for a phone number that I no longer have and it won’t let me go any further than that what can I do to try to reset my password