How can I get my photos transferred over from my iPhone XR

If you were syncing photos with iCloud, have you signed into Settings/Your Name using the same Apple ID, and turned Photos syncing on?

If you weren't syncing photos with iCloud, do you have a backup you can restore from? Restoring from a backup erases all data currently on your device. Any data newer than when the backup was made will be erased. A restore is an all or nothing restore. You can't access a back and only restore certain files.

Backup - Restore your device from an iCloud or iTunes backup.    

If you are transferring data from an earlier device, see the articles below.

Update your iOS device.        

Get help with over-the-air iOS updates          

Update – Can’t or can’t restore 

Have you tried using iTunes on a computer or Finder if running Catalina or later to do the update?

 Update software on iOS devices in iTunes on Mac

If you see an error when you update or restore your iPhone, iPad, or iPod      

Updating iOS: common issues and solutions

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