ipad is disabled connect to itunes

You can't; you need to connect to a computer. Also see the following from If you forgot the passcode on your iPad, or your iPad is disabled - Apple Support

You need a computer to follow these steps. If you don't have a computer, borrow one from a friend, or go to an Apple Retail Store or Apple Authorized Service Provider.

so then whats next if this doesnt work - followed the steps, but the ipad is not showing as connected in itunes so cant follow the steps.. i am able to charge the ipad using the same port so...