Change Air Drop destination folder from Downloads?

We are users like you.

If you want to let Apple know, you can use the feedback page: https://www.apple.com/feedback

In the meantime, since you apparently are not using the Downloads folder for anything, I may offer a solution for you.

I haven't tested it myself, and I did not offer it before because it makes everything that would go to Downloads to go the the Desktop instead.

We will simply replace the Downloads folder with a symlink to the Desktop.

1) Drag the Downloads folder to the trash (you may be asked for your password) - make sure that you don't have anything in there that you want to keep, of course. (you don't need to empty the trash right away).

2) In Terminal, paste the following command:

ln -s ~/Desktop ~/Downloads

3) There is no step 3.

This can be easily reversed with

rm ~/Downloads

mkdir ~/Downloads

Not as far as I know; at least not if you want to keep the Downloads folder for other purposes.

(You could in principle make it work, but for all things that go to the Downloads folder, not separately just for AirDrop).