How do you accept the request to be a recovery contact

Hello By-berry87.

Thanks for reaching out to Apple Support Communities. We understand that you need help setting up a friend as an account recovery contact. We will be glad to assist.

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Set up an account recovery contact

Please also review the information below from: Help a friend or family member as their account recovery contact

"How to become an account recovery contact

To become an account recovery contact, a friend or family member first has to invite you. When they send the invitation, you see a notification in the Messages app on your device. If you're part of their Family Sharing group, you're added as their recovery contact automatically. If not, you'll be asked to accept or decline this request. "

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