Sirius XM and Car Play still not playing nice, stuck on "loading data"

Each time I start my 2022 Porsche with latest infotainment system (PCM 6.0 with wireless car play) it gets stuck on leading data. Apple Car Play loads but Sirius/XM won't play until I manually go into media (In car) and select favorites then all normal EXCEPT my iPhone 11 still shows that Bluetooth not connected to the car.

If if plug my iPhone into usb before starting then all works perfectly except iPhone still shows bluetooth as not connected. Reset PCM, deleted iPhone and re-paired several times.

Annoying as each time I start car have to go through this sequence to listen to my Sirius/XM. Called Porsche they say Apple issue, call Sirius XM they just want to offer me a great upgrade deal.

Anyone have any clues?