Resetting AppleID with a different email. AppleID wants password for that email account and won’t accept the new one I set up for my AppleID.
That's right, that's not possible.
Have you forgotten your Apple ID?, Check your Apple ID via your email box, see this Apple article: If you forgot your Apple ID
If you forgot your Apple ID email address or phone number - Apple Support
OR see -> Having trouble signing in?
https://iforgot.apple.com/password/verify/appleid
If you've forgotten your Apple ID email address or phone number
If you've forgotten your Apple ID email address or phone number – Apple Support (UK)
Have you forgotten your password? -> See this Apple article: If you forgot your Apple ID password
If you forgot your Apple ID password - Apple Support
Then see this Apple article: What to do after you change your Apple ID or password
What to do after you change your Apple ID or password - Apple Support
Have you bought 2nd hand device?
You must contact the seller (hopefully it is the previous owner), otherwise you have been scammed.
Each Apple device is linked/associated with an Apple ID of the person who did the setup.
Activation Lock prevents anyone who is not the owner from using this iPhone.
To unlock the Phone, you need the Apple ID and password of the previous owner, that were used during set up.
So you have to contact the previous owner.
Apple cannot help you.
The previous owner has to read -> this Apple article: What to do before you sell, give away, or trade in your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch
What to do before you sell, give away, or trade in your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch - Apple Support
Then the previous owner has to remove the iPhone from his account, see this Apple article:
Check your Apple ID device list to see where you're signed in
Check your Apple ID device list to see where you're signed in - Apple Support
Then you can sign in with your Apple ID.
See the following Apple articles:
Activation Lock for iPhone, iPad, and iPod touch
Activation Lock for iPhone, iPad, and iPod touch - Apple Support
How to remove Activation Lock
How to remove Activation Lock – Apple Support (UK)
The All Too Common SAD Reality of Buying a Used iPad/iPhone
The All Too Common SAD Reality of Buying … - Apple Community