how do I change my apple email?

Your Apple ID is the personal account you use with all Apple products and services. It includes the email address and password you use to sign in, as well as the contact, payment, and security details that you use with Apple.

You can’t merge multiple Apple ID accounts.

Have you forgotten your Apple ID?, Check your Apple ID via your email box, see this Apple article: If you forgot your Apple ID

If you forgot your Apple ID email address or phone number - Apple Support                  

OR see -> Having trouble signing in?

https://iforgot.apple.com/password/verify/appleid

If you've forgotten your Apple ID email address or phone number

If you've forgotten your Apple ID email address or phone number – Apple Support (UK)

See -> If you can't connect or sign in to iCloud

If you can't connect or sign in to iCloud - Apple Support

See this Apple article: If you forgot your Apple ID password

If you forgot your Apple ID password - Apple Support

See this Apple article: Change your Apple ID

Change your Apple ID - Apple Support (SG)

Then see this Apple article: What to do after you change your Apple ID or password

What to do after you change your Apple ID or password - Apple Support