shared calendar does not share alerts prior to the event
I share a calendar with my partner, she often adds events which i get notified of, however she sets alerts for 1 week or 1 day or 1 hour prior to the event starting, the event shows on my calendar but shows as no alert, i have missed a few events and been in trouble because she says, "it is on the calendar why did you not know"
so is there a way to not only share the event but to also share the alerts prior to the events starting?
iPhone 12 Pro Max, iOS 15