I have about 4GB space but the the software isnt downloading

Try updating iOS after each step.

• Try to Forget the WiFi network and add it again

• Try another WiFi network 

• Toggle sets automatically off and then on

• Reset your network settings

• Force restart your device

• Remove any beta profiles, if applicable

• If everything fails: - Use iTunes or Finder (for macOS Catalina+) to update your device instead of over-the-air

• Get help with iOS update and restore errors - Apple Support

• If you see an error when you update or restore your iPhone, iPad