what is the apple I code?

The code comes by email, usually to your Apple ID email address.

If you know your Apple ID password.

 Apple ID Password Change.   -  

ASC YouTube for How to reset your Apple ID password

 What to do after you change your Apple ID or password - Apple Support  -   I suggest doing this before you change your Apple ID or password.  

If you forgot the Apple ID (iCloud) password, enter the Apple (iCloud) ID, and click Forgot Password. See if you can get a Rescue or Notification email option if necessary. Link to contact Apple Support at the end of the 2nd article.

Apple ID - Manage

Apple ID – Forgot Password  *