how do i set homepod mini to accept incoming phone calls?

See Use HomePod for phone calls - Apple Support for details of what you can do in this respect, and how.

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According to the apple support homePod uses your iOS or iPadOS device to place and receive telephone and FaceTime audio calls. (iPhone is required for telephone calls.) To use these features, you need to set up your iOS or iPadOS device to make Personal Requests on HomePod.

The light on top of HomePod turns green when HomePod is being used a speakerphone. Use the controls on top of HomePod to change the speakerphone volume.

Important: If you call emergency services (“Hey Siri, call 911” or “Hey Siri, call emergency services”), HomePod attempts to place a telephone call using the iPhone you’ve set up to make Personal Requests on HomePod. If that iPhone isn’t available, or if your device for Personal Requests is an iPad or iPod touch, HomePod attempts to hand off the call to any other iPhone on the same network as HomePod. See Make emergency calls in the iPhone User Guide for additional information about calling emergency services using iPhone.

Use HomePod for phone calls

Try any of the following examples:

Place a call: Say, for example, “Hey Siri, call Henri.” To place a FaceTime audio call instead, say “Hey Siri, FaceTime Henri.” To call someone not in your Contacts, say “Hey Siri, call 4089961010.”

Redial the last number: Say “Hey Siri, redial the last number.”

Answer a call: When your iOS or iPadOS device rings, say “Hey Siri, answer the phone.” Before answering, you can ask “Hey Siri, who’s calling?”

End a call: Tap the top of HomePod, hang up using your iOS or iPadOS device, or say “Hey Siri, hang up.” (Other Siri requests aren’t supported during phone calls.)

Route the audio of an existing call through HomePod

Do either of the following:

On your iOS or iPadOS device, tap Audio in the Phone or FaceTime app, then choose your HomePod.

Hold your iPhone near the top of HomePod.

To hand off audio, your device must have Bluetooth turned on and be on the same Wi-Fi network as HomePod. You must also turn on Transfer to HomePod in Settings > General > AirPlay & Handoff.

Tap the top of HomePod to put the current call on hold and answer the new one.

Double-tap the top of HomePod to switch between calls.

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HomePod does not include a telephone modem, nor VoIP call handling features.

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