Is it possible that someone can watch what i am doing on my phone from a remote location

Hello missMoonshineMoms,

Welcome to Apple Support Communities. Do you have concerns about other people being able to remotely view your iPhone's screen without your consent?

In order to do so, you have to follow certain steps on your device. Here are some examples:

• You can mirror your iPhone to a TV or Mac:

1-Connect your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch to the same Wi-Fi network as your Apple TV, AirPlay 2-compatible smart TV, or Mac.3

2-Open Control Center:

-On iPhone X or later or iPad with iPadOS 13 or later: Swipe down from the upper-right corner of the screen.

-On iPhone 8 or earlier or iOS 11 or earlier: Swipe up from the bottom edge of the screen. 

3-Tap Screen Mirroring  .

4-Select your Apple TV, AirPlay 2-compatible smart TV, or Mac from the list.

5-If an AirPlay passcode appears on your TV screen or Mac, enter the passcode on your iOS or iPadOS device.

To stop mirroring your iOS or iPadOS device, open Control Center, tap Screen Mirroring, then tap Stop Mirroring. Or press the Menu button on your Apple TV Remote.

Use AirPlay to stream video or mirror the screen of your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch

Also, check this out:

Sharing your iOS screen from the Zoom desktop client

Remotely Viewing iOS Devices via Remote Screen Sharing

We hope this information is useful. Kind regards.