Greetings funsized8687,
It sounds like you are unable to send emails on your Mac. We know how important having a working email is for you, and you’re in the right place to find a resolution.
Please follow the steps listed below, as they can often resolve your issue:
If you can’t send emails in Mail on Mac
In the Mail app on your Mac, if the Send button is dimmed in the toolbar of your message, or your message can’t be sent using the outgoing mail server, try these suggestions.
• Make sure the outgoing (SMTP) mail server is specified as directed by the provider of your email account. See Verify an email account’s outgoing server.
• Choose Window > Connection Doctor, then follow the instructions displayed in the Details column.
If there’s a firewall problem, verify that firewall software isn’t blocking email traffic on port 25, 465, or 587. Also check whether you’re affected by another firewall, such as software installed separately from macOS or built into an internet sharing router, or administered by your email account provider. Contact the appropriate person for information.
You may be able to send messages from only a certain location, or your email account provider may have stricter settings for sending messages (such as requiring a name and password). Contact your provider, then change the outgoing mail server settings in Mail preferences as needed.
See also
Apple Support article: If you can’t send or receive email on your Mac
This info is located in the Mail User Guide: If you can’t send emails in Mail on Mac
Cheers!