Hey there, and welcome to Apple Support Communities Steinway88,
We can certainly understand your concern and can help provide some insight.
We recommend checking out these steps on how locate your friends using Find My on iPhone and see if it matches up with your procedures.
" Locate a friend in Find My on iPhone
When a friend shares their location with you, you can use the Find My app
to locate them on a map.
Note: If you want to see how far away your friends are from you, make sure you turn on Precise Location for the Find My app. See Control the location information you share on iPhone.

See the location of a friend
Tap People at the bottom of the screen, then tap the name of the person you want to locate.
- If your friend can be located: They appear on a map so you can see where they are.
- If your friend can’t be located: You see “No location found” below their name.
- If you aren’t following your friend: You see “Can see your location” below their name. You can ask to see a friend’s location.
You can also use Siri to locate a friend who has shared their location with you.
Siri: Say something like: “Where’s Gordon?” Learn how to use Siri. "
For additional information, check out this link: Locate a friend in Find My on iPhone - Apple Support
These steps will help ensure your device is working with ease and can fix common issues like the ones you’re experiencing.
Kindest regards!