Hello JamesR7151,
To help us get a better understanding of the issue, we’d like to ask a few questions.
1. Which device are you using your AirPods with? Does the issue happen when using the AirPods with multiple devices?
2. Does this happen with all audio, or does it only happen with certain apps? If the issue happens with certain apps, which apps are affected?
The above details will help us plan how to proceed.
Please also check out this link to ensure the correct process is being used to pause and unpause audio, so we can make sure that's not part of the issue: Pause, skip, and adjust volume with your AirPods and AirPods Pro
Control audio with your AirPods Pro (1st or 2nd generation) or AirPods (3rd generation)
• To play and pause audio, press the force sensor on the stem of an AirPod. To resume playback, press again.
• To skip forward, double-press the force sensor.
• To skip back, triple-press the force sensor.
• To turn the volume up or down, say "Hey Siri," then say something like "Turn up the volume" or "Turn down the volume." Or drag the volume slider in the app that you're listening to, on the Lock Screen, or in Control Center. You can also open Now Playing on your Apple Watch and turn the Digital Crown to make your AirPods Pro or AirPods (3rd generation) louder or quieter.
Thanks!