why is iphone 13pro is sending sos text to my emergency friends

If you feel an unauthorized person is remotely controlling or monitoring your device, then that is possible only if you have done one or more of the following Don'ts...

1. Don't hand over an iPhone to kids or to a stranger without Enabling Guided Access
2. Don't share Apple IDs
3. Don't Jailbreak
4. Don't share sensitive information pertaining to your device
5. Don't give in to Phishing
6. Don't leave your iPhone unlocked and unattended in public places like offices, schools, malls etc.

I created a fictitious contact to demonstrate to you the complete emergency SOS process. You mean this happens automatically?