JDO tks for specific questions to help figure this out more: **Replies after your questions:
To help narrow this down, is this happening in the Apple Messages app or a different app?
**On iPhone13 in iphone/Apple Messages app.
Is this happening with any contact that sends a video? Or just certain contacts, like those that don't use an iPhone?
**Yes any contact, two have iPhones (13 Pro & XR), other Android. Whether I send to them or they send to me. Mainly the ones I send it to say "I can't hear it" and I then tell them about greyed out icon; I'd prefer to tell them (and me to find out)if there's some setting someplace to have it auto play if touch top part (not arrow opening YTube) without having to touch greyed out icon to hear the audio.
In the screenshot in your original question, is the video shown a link to a video on a different app, like YouTube?
**It's a link to YouTube video, but happens whether I send to person or they send to me; both going/coming are links to YouTube videos. ...I know top part of video link/pic is where I can play it inside messages app, that's where greyed out icon is, and if I click lower right facing arrow I know it opens my YouTube app and sound plays fine, as it does everywhere else. (see pic)
So I was wanting to know if a way to keep only playing inside messages and touching top middle of link and YT video play without hitting that greyed out icon to hear it every time.
****...I just tried one thing, and maybe this is ONLY fix(?)- (possible easier to tell senior citizens the following than trying to see greyed out icon to touch to turn on, haha): I hit up on sound button on side of iPhone(NOTE: my sound was already half way up when I tested on other audio files just before this test)and it started playing Ytube sound that could be heard even tho' mic icon was still greyed out.
If you have any other ideas - like not even having that greyoud out/line thru mic turned off (a way to have it on all the time)let me know. Tks for input from all of you!
