Hi hagakyrkogata,
If we understand correctly, you need help changing ringtones and wallpaper on your iPhone XS.
We also see that you have already reviewed:
Use tones and ringtones with your iPhone or iPad - Apple Support
Change the wallpaper on your iPhone - Apple Support
What happen when you attempt to change the ringtone to something different? Let's verify the steps below:
"Change your ringtone
- Go to Settings > Sounds & Haptics.
- Under Sounds and Haptic Patterns, tap the sound that you want to change.

- Tap a ringtone or alert tone to hear it and set it as the new sound.
"
Regarding the wallpaper changing, we'd suggest checking to see if the Shuffle feature of Wallpaper settings is selected.
- "In the Settings app, tap Wallpaper.
- Tap Add New Wallpaper.
- Select Photo Shuffle from the top row of options.
- On the Photo Shuffle screen, set a frequency (On Tap, On Lock, Hourly, or Daily). Then choose a set of photos that will shuffle as you use your iPhone throughout the day.

- Tap Done.
"
Change the wallpaper on your iPhone - Apple Support
Hope this helps.
Cheers.