once i put my airpods on, they do connect to my phone, but I can't hear anything.

Did you check the volume settings?

If the volume is set correctly, try to reset the AirPods and pair them again:

How to reset your AirPods and AirPods Pro - Apple Support

my airpod maxs connect to my phone and i got to put them on and i dont hear the ding of them connecting or the music