How do I check my iPhone for spyware/malware

I am experiencing remote monitoring. More than that, I have used HO Smart Friend and they DID access my cell phone and view my computer screen THROUGH my phone to see what I was speaking about. That was the first time. So yes, remote accessing an iPhone 14 Plus IS POSSIBLE. I have reset my computer 6 times, it is currently out of my house, I have changed modems, I have reset two iPhones twice after I refused to pay ransom to keep access to contacts and family pictures. I was locked out and changed one phone number, and STILL they did it AGAIN on the changed phone number. I have reported to local county sheriff’s dept 3x, and since they won’t do anything have been instructed to contact a government agency whom I received the information about from a physical and VERY reliable source. They have access to things and I have changed my iCloud accounts more than once! So yes, they can remotely access and CONTROL mic and phone and camera and much more. They do it to me. I’m contacting Apple in a moment and doing EVEN more. Been happening since at least early March, probably longer. Any any weird thing that comes up, verify, question, do it, do not hesitate. I’m sorry to bust your bubble but HO DID remote access one phone and SINCE then I did reset and change my iCloud addresses as well as having gone thru about 20+ email addresses. I’m a no one, an everyday person, no government official etc, yet still organized and sophisticated attacks on ME only. Why?