As the software remote works over the home network, the Apple TV box will first need to have its network settings configured.
I have an old apple tv
What is the model Apple TV?
Identify your Apple TV model - Apple Support
Find your Apple TV model number - Apple Support
↳ The A-number should be mentioned on the bottom of the device
① The Apple TV (4th generation or later) should be straight-forward to pair with, as described, if both devices are already on the same home network. Else you will need a functional remote to set up the network first.
② The Apple TV (3rd generation) needs a functional remote to set up the Apple TV Remote widget in Control Center.
For the Apple TV (3rd generation), your options are:
③ The Apple TV (2nd generation) is not compatible with the Apple TV Remote widget in Control Center.
For the Apple TV (2nd generation), your option is:
- buy a replacement Apple Remote (aluminum).
If you lost the remote for your Apple TV - Apple Support