i submitted my password wrong 3 times but it didnt come up with the restart and show password reset options

Building on previous advise which should be your First Method 👍

Only as Fall Back position

Reset Computer Password  for the Administrator Account Password

Intel Computer

1 - Shutdown the computer 

1A - Restart computer and immediately hold the two keyboard combo Command  r 

1B - If using a Bluetooth Keyboard with Rechargeable Battery - Cable the Keyboard to computer for this unique purpose. Bluetooth Kernel may not load soon enough to execute the 2 keyboard commands 

2 - Top Tool Bar >> Utilities >> Terminal

3 - Type resetpassword as one word and no spaces

4 - Press Return key

5 - Follow the prompts and remember the New Password

Apple Silicon M1 / M2 Computer 

1 - Choose Apple menu > > Shut Down

1B - If using a Bluetooth Keyboard with Rechargeable Battery - Cable the Keyboard to computer for this unique purpose.

2- Do not  attempt a Restart to access this feature. The computer Must be Shutdown and pause for about 10 seconds before moving forwards 

 3 - Press and hold the power button on your Mac until you see “Loading startup options.”

4 - Click Options, then click Continue. 

5 - Top Tool Bar >> Utilities >> Terminal

6 - Type resetpassword as one word and no spaces

7 - Press Return key

8 - Follow the prompts and remember the New Password

If you forgot your Mac login password - Apple Support describes what to do, including options If you can't reset your Mac login password.