Make sure when you enter the Filevault recovery key that you then actually change the macOS user account (or was that just for the Filevault) password right then & there. I just recently had to do this for one of our organization's laptops because the laptop said the account was locked, but I don't recall the specifics (we knew the password, but it would not allow us to authenticate...one of the problems with T2 models even without Filevault enabled). I know with the 2018-2020 Intel Macs with the T2 security chip, that Filevault is just further protecting the user account passwords by adding another password unlike with the older Macs (not entirely sure how it works since Apple really doesn't provide details).
If you cannot reset the password of Filevault and an admin macOS user account, then you will need to perform a clean install of macOS by erasing the whole physical SSD (Intel Macs only), or by performing a firmware "Restore" to reset the firmware & T2 security chip which wipes the internal SSD requiring reinstalling macOS through Internet Recovery Mode (only way once the internal SSD has been erased through a firmware "Restore").
Revive or restore an Intel-based Mac using Apple Configurator - Apple Support
Unless you previously modified the security settings to allow booting from USB, then you won't be able to do so now unless you can authenticate with at least one admin user account. A clean install of macOS through Recovery Mode, or a firmware "Restore" & Recovery Mode install will be required. If you can authenticate with the T2 security chip, then you can modify the Mac's security settings using the Startup Security Utility.
I hope you have a backup because there is no way to access the data on the internal SSD because it requires authentication with the T2 security chip with one of the macOS user accounts to unlock the hardware encryption of the internal SSD (the SSD is always hardware encrypted on T2 models even if Filevault is not enabled) even if trying to access it through Target Disk Mode. There are a lot more ways to lose access to data on the internal SSDs of these newer Macs due to all the hardware, software, and security changes (especially the 2018+ Macs). I've seen several bugs with T2 Macs for allowing authentication (passwords were known as I could log in when booted normally, but authentication & access from Recovery Mode or Target Disk Mode did not work).