Re: “… this needs to be adjusted on my son’s phone? … “
Yes, that is correct.
First, your child’s phone must be a “properly” setup Child’s AppleID with his/her accurate DOB.
This can ONLY be done by the “Family Organizer.
Set up Family Sharing - Apple Support
Create an Apple ID for your child - Apple Support
Then:
On your child’s phone, go to Screen Time.
At setup select “This is a Child’s Phone.”
(This allows you to add your OWN “special” passcode unknown to anyone else. You should also link it to your AppleID to aid in any future “recovery” efforts.
Then … turn on the necessary “Controls”. Anything you change here can’t be “unchanged” w/o your special passscode.
Use parental controls on your child's iPhone, iPad, and iPod touch - Apple Support
The ones you SHOULD restrict are in “Other Features”
Account Changes: This will prevent your child from signing out of his account and into “somebody elses”. (another common “end run” methodology )
It ALSO prevents him from changing the time or Time Zone.
Passcode Changes: This restricts him from changing his passcode — which otherwise can be used to lock his parents out of his phone.
Cellular Data Changes: Prevents child from playing “musical phone numbers” with other SIMs they might obtain.