We have experienced this same problem -- on multiple occasions, in multiple venues, with multiple different projectors/monitors, with multiple different MacBooks (all running Sonoma).
THE QUICK-AND-SIMPLE WORKAROUND THAT SAVED OUR PRESENTATION AND OUR REPUTATION
SITUATION: You're giving a presentation, and two minutes in, your Apple MacBook slows, become unresponsive and freezes. Hundreds of people are looking at you. You rebook your computer, reconnect your MacBook, and relaunch your presentation. And the same freeze-up happens. The audience is becoming restless. A technician appears and says the same thing has been happening to other (Sonoma) users---the technician knows no fix. Your talk is in imminent danger of being canceled.
THE INSTANT FIX: (for Zoom Pro users only) Launch a Zoom session, start screen-sharing, and THEN launch your talk. Everything will just work. Problem solved and disaster averted!
GOTCHA: Whenever you're invited to a venue that lacks an internet connection, then Zoom won't launch a session---your talk will be canceled. And if you're not a (paying) Zoom Pro user, this workaround won't help you at all.
CONCLUSION: We agree 100% with commentator mma165's top-rated comment that "This is a total disaster and [we] don't understand how something this basic is going unaddressed."