If you turned on Ask To Buy you may still have to turn it off, and I don't see any way of doing this other than on an Apple device signed in with your ID: Set up Ask to Buy - Apple Support
If you're a parent or guardian, use your own device to turn on or turn off Ask to Buy.
On your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch
1. Open the Settings app.
2. Tap your name.
3. Tap Family Sharing.
4. Tap your family member's name, then tap Ask to Buy. In iOS 15 or earlier, tap Ask to Buy then tap your family member's name.
5. Turn on or off Require Purchase Approval.
If you think Ask To Buy is not set on the account, according to the support article: Update the birth date associated with your Apple ID - Apple Support
"If you need to change the birth date for someone below age 13 [age varies by country - see the article], contact Apple Support."
Click/tap on this link to contact support --> Contact - Official Apple Support