Airpod gen 3 question

When i got my first airpods a few days ago, everytime i checked my setting i saw the airpods and the airpod setting, and they were always connected,just recently they were acting funny so i restarted them, now everytime i take them out they disconnect and l cant see them in setting anymore. I don’t know if the phone doesn’t think it’s my airpods or what. Bear with me because i recently got a apple phone and am still learning