Notifications all come at once after i pick up phone

Someone asked this question back in Jan 2023, and there was no answer in there that fixed the issue on my phone. So I'm going to ask again: I don't have any Focus set, and I have my phone on and unlocked and auto-lock set to "never", so I see the "live" screen all the time. I do not have summary activated. Yet, if I'm doing something like actually working on my laptop and not staring at or touching my iPhone, no notifications come through until I either pick up or look directly at my iPhone. Then I have to wait while all the backed-up notifications display one by one on the phone before I can do anything since they keep popping up until they have all been displayed, and I swipe them away. This is really annoying because it delays me from doing what I want to do on the phone.