Hello nanciepants,
Thank you for contacting the Apple Support Community. To utilize CarPlay with your iPhone 13 Pro and your 2022 Subaru Outback, it is imperative that you employ a high-quality, compatible Lightning to USB cable. It is possible that the charging cables you mentioned may not be compatible due to variations in port design. For optimal performance, we recommend utilizing an official Apple Lightning cable or a certified third-party MFi (Made for iPhone) Lightning cable that is specifically designed for data transfer, rather than charging alone.
If the cable is securely inserted into the port and CarPlay still fails to activate, it is advisable to verify that CarPlay is enabled within the system settings of your vehicle and your iPhone. Additionally, ensure that both your vehicle and iPhone are running the most recent software updates.
Please do not hesitate to contact the Apple Support Community if you encounter further difficulties. I wish you a safe and enjoyable driving experience.
For further assistance, please refer to the following website:
Use CarPlay with your iPhone - Apple Support
Best regards,
hPennichetty