The tone of your reply here, and many others is defensive. Frankly, many of the replies to consumer concerns here are defensive, and angry at the customer for being frustrated with an application that should simply work.
I know that many people on these forums are volunteers, and don't work for Apple directly. The company should step in on a forum like this and present an "official reply" rather than having others respond to a known glitch with a "be patient" type of answer, or even worse yet, condescending attitude.
I know many users here who reply to questions - their main focus is providing solutions. But there is an aspect of these forums which is also "venting" and that should be honored, that is in part what these forums are created for. Otherwise, these forums would be official and moderated by official company representatives.
While the iPhone might seem ubiquitous and popular, it is not a throwaway expense. The phone costs several hundred dollars and this forum is viewed all over the world, in some places where cell phone plans are expensive and a greater cost of a user's budget.
Simply: This is what longtime Apple users like myself see as a diminishing of the brand. Cranky experts who believe something is simple and benign and yet are not respectful to the customer: haven't you heard that "the customer is always right?"
Users of this product should be respected for being angry when something is truly a frustrating mistake.
And those here who are trying to help should understand that Apple is, as a company, choosing to make their products "for the masses" that means my 73 year old mom. It is not an "elitist" company anymore with expert users who "should know better." If you can't understand this shift, you shouldn't be here trying to help.
Apple needs to make sure that people like my mom don't get answers like yours on forums like these, because if she showed me this in reply to her concern, I'd immediately go out with her and buy a new product, something where she is not expected to "know better."
Chill out, go enjoy the new year, read a book. And let people be disappointed when they expect more. Hopefully, it will work to be used as some reflection in the company, just when they launched the Mobile Me service too early.