the other "display tricks" I've heard a few of you talk about
Check this link. It walks you through the different ways to use externals with a MBP:
http://osxdaily.com/2011/01/14/turn-off-the-macbook-or-macbook-pro-screen-with-t he-computer-still-on/
My MBP kinda works with DVI on my monitors, but I cannot allow it to sleep otherwise various issues arise. Check my post here for more info and some things to try:
http://discussions.apple.com/thread.jspa?threadID=2774718&tstart=0
The gist of it is that it's sporadic for different monitors and different adapters. Your best shot seems to be MDP->HDMI adapters or MDP to MDP (if your monitor has MDP that is). Nothing is a guarantee.
I've got full functionality (not as smooth as previous MBP or Mac Pros but it works nonetheless) using a moshi knockoff HDMI adapter on an Asus monitor and an HP monitor. Connecting to HD TVs works as well for me. Some ppl don't have success with HDMI though so nothing's a sure bet.
Also, the Apple tech I'm working with doesn't have a lot of info he can contribute to the situation. It's basically a wait and see thing right now, but at least the engineers are fully aware of and actively working on a fix.
Hope this helps & you get something figured out.