Just wondering about removing the apps I downloaded and of course when she plugs it in to her computer...it will say it is mine I would think. How do we make it hers? I am sure this is a dumb question....just wondered what the recommended process might be.
Step #1. Do a backup and sync with the old iPad and your computer. That will prepare iTunes on your computer for the new iPad.
Then, you could "Restore as new" from iTunes to remove the apps from the old iPad but that will happen anyway when she connects to her computer. You're probably better off letting her computer do it as that eliminates any fumble fingering that might accidentally cause deletions from your computer. However, in both cases, your apps will have been removed from the iPad. Then, when you connect your new iPad to your computer, the apps will automagically transfer. If anything goes wrong, you can download the apps again (to the new iPad) without paying provided that you're using the same Apple ID that you used when the original purchase was made.
No - I don't know whether you on Mac or Windows, but on windows a backup is done by right-clicking on the device name and selecting Back Up from the menu that pops up. There is more info on backups here http://support.apple.com/kb/HT4079
I'd like to comment further on this topic: as regards a transfer from an original iPad to an iPad II (my only experience so far).
I transferred purchases, sync'd, and backed up. Plugged in iPad II, attached to old account, restored from backup. Result:
1) Obnoxious but not crucial: all icons were rearranged.
2) Obnoxious: Flipboard (app) didn't have a record of my FB, Twitter, and Flickr accounts. I expected to need to log into them again, but not to have to create new links to them.
3) Troubling: All that was transferred were my apps. Now, I realize that I originally opted to transfer music and movies manually (because my desktop collection is rather large) -- but shouldn't what was on the iPad be part of what's recorded in the backup file?
4) Troubling: Considering the music, I took a look at the Capacity meter in iTunes (we'll ignore Audio, Video and Photos since I know what's up with those; manual transfer issue above). Old Apps: 6.2 GB, New Apps: 5.9 GB. Old "Other": .43 GB, New "Other": .39 GB. SO -- what's missing? I have no idea.
I'm not (exactly) complaining, I just want to warn others doing the same thing that it's not necessarily as painless as it seems to be made out. Be prepared for some road bumps such as these.